How May I Help You?

We all find ourselves in situations where we feel we have no control, where we feel hopeless and alone. Maybe you’re suddenly without a job, lost in a stormy dark night, your relationship or marriage is spiralling out of control, your child shows you no respect, or a sickness or death leaves you breathless and now you feel your friends distancing themselves from you because they don’t know what to say or do. What would you like people to do for you if you were in one of these situations?

Most likely you would want them to do for you as I would want you to do for me. When you know I am cutting to try and stop the pain, when I’m running away from fear, when I am hearing illogical voices in my head that are constantly telling me untruths, or when you see me crouching in a corner, alone and inclosed by an inescapable sadness, please:

Take my hand and lift me up.

Show me compassion, not pity or disgust.

Tell me, retell me, assure me, that I am a woman of worth and significance.

Show me you love me with an unconditional love (Don’t just tell me!).

Show me grace.

Treat me as you would a “normal” person-because I am.


Invite me to be-and accept me as-your true friend.


Give me a shoulder to cry on.


Don’t abandon me.


Don’t be afraid to talk with me. I can share what I am comfortable with (some days will be different than others).


Try and understand me (all I ask is that you try).


Be honest and tell me what you’re thinking.


Don’t try and be my psychologist-leave that to the experts.


Pray for me and with me-only God is my complete healer!


Read/message me the truths of God’s word to me-I need to be reminded often. 




I’m here for you


You’re not alone in this


You are important to me


Do you want a hug? (please ask because somedays it may make things worse)


When all this is over, I’ll still be here and so will you


I can’t understand exactly what you are going through, but I am here to listen and support you


I’m not going to leave or abandon you


You’re not crazy


I love you (only if you mean it)


It sucks that you’re in so much pain


I’m not going to leave you; I’m going to take care of myself, so you don’t need to worry that your pain might hurt me


What can I do to help?


This must be very hard for you


I’m here for you; I’ll always be here


You are amazing, strong, and beautiful


You’ll get through this


You never have to apologize for your illness or feeling this way


I’m not scared of you

These statements show that you recognize that  I am in pain, that you don’t understand, and that you will be there for me anyways. Sometimes the best thing you can do is give me a little escape from my mind. Distract me with something fun and leave my illness aside for a while. I love to have fun but sometimes my illness gets in the way. 

I know I have significance in God’s sight. I know I am loved by him and that gives me a sense of purpose, hope, peace, and comfort that no one will ever experience unless you know Jesus Christ personally…but would it ever feel great if I could feel that, and hear that from you as well. I know it would speed my recovery and it would give you a sense that God is using you to heal me.

*Thank you to my wonderful Papa,

Jim Johnston, for helping me with this post! I love you!

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